beneathstillwaters

though I am separated from second husband, we are friends and get along great. we live close by, and on holidays we all get together at "our" home, my 2 adult children from first marriage, with their families, and our 2 , ages 18, 20. he raised my kids, they are very close..no step father issues. the one issue this year, my older daughter wants to change thanksgiving this year! i am a nurse and have always worked thanksgiving. I always take Wednesday off to take care of everything, we eat on thursday around 1, then I go to work. It has never been a problem. Even after the older ones got married and began families. This year older daughter calls me, too late to change work schedule, and says we have to have thanksgiving on a different day because they have to spend holiday with johns family. I said no. I was at work, busy, said we have to talk about this later, she then called her dad who agreed and together they changed dinner to friday. No thought at all of our younger daughter who works in retail, and has to work all day on black friday. she is upset, i am upset said its ok, just go to your dads when you get done working that just made her angrier because my thanksgiving is ruined.older daughter that started this lives an hr away. I am clueless and hurt..johns mother doesn’t work..i am willing to compromise, but no one else is budging. any ideas..I told younger daughter we can go out to a restaurant for dinner.but we both want to be with our family! and trust me, there is no chance of Johns mother coming to our home with the drive and she is a snob.